This book launch season for Don’t Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection, has been one of the most beautiful, stretching, emotional, exhilarating, and exciting experiences of my life.
I knew that writing a marriage book, specifically about modern marriage struggles (while navigating battles of our own), would require vulnerability, but I didn’t realize how much releasing a book would demand from me too.
There have been days where I’ve felt steady, SO excited, and confident, and then there have been days where I’ve dissolved into tears on the kitchen floor because the pressure feels too heavy or the self‑doubt too loud. I’ve had moments where impostor syndrome wrapped itself around my chest tightly (does that happen to everyone when you’re doing something you really love!?) I hope I’m not alone in it.
Through all of it, though, every meltdown, every spiral, every “I don’t think I can do this”, Jesse has been quietly holding my pieces together.
He has been so immensely patient and encouraging. He listens when I ramble, even when I’m just processing my ideas for the millionth time. He talks me through the panic when my brain is convinced everything is falling apart. He reminds me of who I am when I forget. And he’s always making dumb jokes that make me laugh so hard.
I genuinely want to continue showing him the same intentionality he has always shown me. His love language has always been acts of service, and mine is quality time (and touch, if you couldn’t have guessed after watching my IG reel of this recipe haha). And cooking a real dinner, not a rushed meal, feels like a way to meet both of our needs at once. I just want to thank him and tell him that I see him seeing me. And it means a lot.
As a whole, I’ve been making dinner much more often lately, for him and for my boys! It honestly makes me feel better as a whole to know that I have a full meal planned for the evening.
This week I made Greek Parmesan Chicken with Homemade Tzatziki (my favorite sauce!!) and Potatoes, and it turned out soooo good. I’m still thinking about it!
The chicken came out perfectly: it was golden, crisp around the edges, full of bright lemon and warm oregano. The tzatziki was cool and refreshing, the perfect contrast to the warm chicken and potatoes, the roasted garlic giving it a mellow depth.
And the potatoes, YUM. They soak up all the juices from the chicken, making the dish feel cozy and complete.
It made for the perfect date night dinner!
There really is no intimacy without intentionality. The simple things really do matter: a meal, eye contact, deep conversations, nights at home, a husband who steadies you, a wife who tries (though imperfectly).
Feeling thankful today for a season that stretched us both, and for how faithful Jesus has been in reminding us who we are and bringing us closer to Him and one another in the process.
If you haven’t had a chance to pre-order my book, that is one of the greatest ways you could support my ministry! I would be so honored if you’d click here to learn more! The heart of Don’t Burn Your Own House Down is to remind you that you’re not alone in the very common marriage struggles that so many of us are facing: feeling alone in your own home, frustration with phone addiction, social media comparison or lust, pornography, faith, partnership within the home, and so, so much more.
I’d love for you to check it out and let me know what you think over on IG @livingeasywithlindsey!
Now onto the recipe!
Prep the Roasted Garlic (for the tzatziki)
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