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Category: Relationships + Faith

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10 of the Most Important Lessons I’ve Learned Thus Far in my Life

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31 Prayers for Your Marriage

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Dealing with Anger, Frustration and Overwhelm as a Christian

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2023 Goal-Setting With Your Spouse

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Let’s Talk About Protecting Your Spouse

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3 Way You Can Grow More as a Person

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11 Lessons I Learned in my 20s That Changed my Life

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How To Study the Bible: Which Bible Translations I Recommend, Scripture Memorization and My Honest Thoughts on Quiet Time & Devotionals

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Becoming A Woman Of Character Through God’s Grace: Comparing Myself To The Proverbs 31 Woman

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15 Questions to Ask Your Spouse to Strengthen Your Relationship

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Marriage and Pleasure Actually DO Go Together

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We Stopped Going House to House for the Holidays. Here’s Why.

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I call it a “family trip” rather than a vacati I call it a “family trip” rather than a vacation, because it isn’t fully a *vacation* just yet 😂, but we’re getting there.
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Double tap if you dream of traveling as a family & send this to your spouse to encourage them that you CAN do it (and enjoy it!)
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Here’s what we’ve found as a traveling family: the more our little ones are given the opportunity to rise up, the more they will do so! In only a couple of years, they have become SO much more brave, more adventurous, more understanding and way more flexible as little humans. ⁣
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They’ve also grown to LOVE seeing new places, even at such a young age. They continue to surprise me with how well they handle (and even LOVE) airplane delays, flights, random sleep schedules, hotel beds and longgg drives. ⁣
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TIPS FOR TRAVELING AS A FAMILY:⁣
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1. Limit expectations: When you start the trip knowing that you need to be fully flexible, it helps to ease tension when you make a million stops or have to go back home when things just aren’t working out. ⁣
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2. Snacks, snacks and more snacks: We carry *limitless* snacks on our flights and road trips. Just trust me on this one 😂. ⁣
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3. Let go of control: It wasn’t easy for me to let the boys boogie board, swim in the ocean or ride huge rollercoasters, but that is the only way that they will discover what they love and what they thrive at!
“I’m sorry. Just because you don’t do things “I’m sorry. Just because you don’t do things the same way that I do doesn’t mean you’re wrong.” [Bookmark/Share for crucial marriage reminders. 💜]⁣
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I offered this apology to Jesse after a morning of critiquing, adjusting and fixing my husband when it wasn’t necessary to do so. ⁣
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Some days I really struggle with letting go of control and allowing him to be the type of father, husband, brother or friend that God has called him to be, rather than the one that I will him to be. 
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The beauty of God’s design of marriage is this: you were never called to take on the role of the Holy Spirit in your spouse’s life. You are simply to walk alongside them with your heart and mind set on Christ & eternity. ⁣
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Your spouse will likely never be exactly like you. And what a freedom it will bring when you no longer deem it necessary to point your husband or wife back to yourself - how you would do things and what you expect of them - in the thick of arguments or disagreements. You are not the example. Jesus is.⁣
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Let’s be honest: if there were two of “me”, marriage would be just as messy as it is with the two of us. ⁣😅
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Do you struggle with control? Do you often critique your husband’s actions and decisions? Pride can consume a lot of areas in any marriage if we allow it to. God designed marriage as a balance and as a union that pushes each person to see Him more clearly. ⁣
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Sometimes these hard moments - where we may not see eye to eye - cause us to pray and seek God for patience and self-control. And we may need that more than our husband needs to change. ⁣
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P.S. The Marriage Bundle is here! It includes BOTH The Wife Project: From Roommates to Soulmates Course AND The Intimacy Project for $100 off. Available for a short time, so don’t miss it! Click the link in my bio for more info on becoming the wife God created you to be while increasing joy, communication & friendship in your marriage. ⁣
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[COMMENT]: What is one strength in your husband that you are thankful for? How does he balance you out? 🖤
I can’t wait for you guys to see the finished pr I can’t wait for you guys to see the finished product! 🙌🏼 Our oldest, Sutton, officially decided that he didn’t want to share a room with his little brother anymore because he’s ready for his own big boy room (🥺). ⁣
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We got rid of their bunk beds and moved him into his new bedroom. He asked for a “realistic” wallpaper, so we ordered this dreamy vintage surf print from @hemmaandco. I’m so excited to show you guys the his sweet little space with his cute little bed and surfboard. 🏄 ⁣
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My mom used to change my room for me every year for my birthday and I have to give her a lot of credit because that’s real commitment. 😂 Use code: LINDS for 30% off of your wallpaper with @hemmaandco!
1. Jesse’s new obsession is at the end. He asks 1. Jesse’s new obsession is at the end. He asks us to play every.single.day. 😂⁣
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2. The boys got a new video game that they started playing together (without fighting!!) and it has strengthened their relationship SO much. I’m learning how to balance the controlling-mom-nature in me (that always wants to shut screens down) with Jesse’s level-headedness in seeing how beneficial these little things can be to their friendship. 🖤 ⁣
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3. We’ve learned that both boys really need connection time with us before school or other activities, and that it helps to dissolve arguments between them or heightened emotions. Board games and card games in the morning have been a really good way for us to spend that quality time (and for Jesse and I to learn that we may need to quench our competitiveness a bit in front of the boys 😂.)⁣
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💭 How do you like to connect with your little ones before a busy day?
“I wish I never would have said that.”

I can’t count the number of times that I’ve spoken these specific words. I think about them often – wishing that I could go back in time and take back all of the hurtful things that I’ve ever said. But words are so incredibly permanent, aren’t they? 

I know that I will never be able to wholly mend the negative effect and lasting impression that they have had on the people that I love.

Isn’t it true that the “big” problems we experience in a relationship are rarely the primary cause of destruction? 

Instead, it’s the build-up of the little things that slowly eat away at us. I believe that, more often than not, it can be the very simple words, said aloud in the wrong tone, at the wrong time, or with the wrong heart, that will begin to rot a relationship at the core.

This includes words that are said to our spouse in the heat of the moment. To our kids when both chaos and frustrations are at their peak. To friends when gossip or bitterness comes to light. To parents or siblings in moments of irritation. You may have already had one of these moments this morning; they happen much too frequently, don’t they?

How often have you regretted the words you let flow from your mouth, realizing that you never paused to think?

“Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue is also a fire … It corrupts the whole person and sets the whole course of his life on fire” (James 3:5-6).

This year, practice being slow to speak. Before speaking, ask yourself this: Is it Kind? Is it Necessary? Is it True? When you fail, which you will, ask for forgiveness without hesitation.

In order for us to do these things, it’s often important for us to step back and take a few minutes away. In the midst of rampant emotions, it is physically impossible to think logically. 

As the dust settles and we allow the holy spirit to be the gatekeeper of our words, we will then be actively displaying the unconditional love that we’re called to have.

💭 share with me: what is one moment in your life when you were thankful that you paused? 🖤
double tap if you agree with me on this one & shar double tap if you agree with me on this one & share with a friend who needs to see it today. 🖤

Women are naturally nurturers. We want people to be their best selves, which is a beautiful gift! But this can quickly become distorted when we begin to believe that we have the power to change or “fix” someone with the amount that we love them. I did this with so. many. relationships. And in the end, those guys were still the same.

If your boyfriend or fiancé currently struggles with lust or addiction, if they are not in tune to your needs, if they don’t know how to keep their space clean or organized, if they have bad habits or anger issues, if their relationship with God isn’t solid now - marriage *will not* change them. 

Marriage is hard. Parenthood is hard. It challenges people. If you are PROUD of the person you are dating, and you want that *EXACT* person to raise your children, to attend every family Christmas, to be the person who takes care of you when you’re sick, if they’re spiritually evenly-yoked with you, and they are the person you want to lean on when you’re having financial troubles - THEN, yes! Marry that person. 

But if you are marrying them with “buts” “ifs” and “when’s”, take a moment to pause. Because those changes may not ever happen. You have to choose whether or not you are willing to navigate those faults and struggles with them for the rest of their lives.

Let me be clear - women are described in scripture as “helpers”. The word that is used is the same word to describe the Holy Spirit. Our love and godly witness within marriage are *powerful*. But we are not God, and we cannot change a person from the inside out. And yes, He can, but we don’t know what timing He will choose or what that change will look like.

It is one of THE biggest decisions of your life - and honestly, our generation is working HARD to bring this divorce rate down, so let’s start from the beginning, rather then looking back with regret once we’re already in it. 

For a deeper understanding of what it means to be a godly wife or future wife, click the link in my bio & join thousands of women in my 8-week study: The Wife Project: From Roommates to Soulmates. 🖤
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