Here are five practical ways to overcome resentment and bitterness and rediscover the love that brought you and your spouse together in the first place. It’s not easy, but with time, patience, and a willingness to work through your feelings, it’s possible to find your way back to a strong, healthy, and holy connection.
What we focus on is what we see. If we are only noticing all the things our spouse does that we dislike or feel are wrong, that’s what we will see more of. If we look for the good in them, we will see more good. The enemy wants to magnify the negative so be aware and ready to rebuke that. Pray that God helps you look at and love your husband the way He does. We are all God’s children, and when we step back and see that we are all broken sinners, we are able to find more grace for our spouses.
I mess up a lot. We are all human. I hope and pray that Jesse doesn’t cling to my mistakes but clings to my heart and who I am. Holding onto grudges and anger will keep you stuck in the past and prevent you from moving forward. Practice forgiveness by acknowledging the hurt, letting go of the resentment, and choosing to move forward. We can’t expect forgiveness if we aren’t willing to give the same.
You can’t get mad at someone for not meeting your expectations if you haven’t communicated them. Communicate without attacking your spouse or placing blame. Pray before addressing the problem with your spouse. Timing can make a difference to so many sure you are in the optimal environment and in a healthy mood. Ask the Holy Spirit to speak through you so you can effectively express how you feel and why you feel that way. Remember needs aren’t demands. Listen to your spouse’s perspective too, and work together to find a solution.
What do you feel that you need in order to be able to move forward? The more clear you are on what you need, the easier it will be to express them to your spouse. I was always told, “Don’t bring me a problem until you’ve thought about a solution.”
I believe that the Holy Spirit can change hearts, and I believe that we can learn how to do anything important to us, but it isn’t going to happen overnight. You both will make mistakes along the way, and you might need to course-correct many times. But never forget to express gratitude and appreciate what you’re doing every step of the way. Focusing on the positives will diminish the power of the negatives.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to overcome resentment on your own. If you’re feeling stuck, consider seeking outside help from a Christian therapist or counselor. A professional can help you work through your feelings and provide guidance on how to move forward in a healthy way.
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